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For the last several days, weeks, or even months you’ve been trying to figure out how to approach her and ask her out. You’re not even really sure where you want to ask her to go or what the two of you would do, but you can’t stop thinking about it. You practice talking to her in the mirror but when the time comes to open your mouth, words come out in a jumbled heap.
She’s going to be getting a tattoo and you believe that is just downright hot. You were hoping she’d get it by now so you would have something to compliment her on. Her photography interests have her collecting used cameras, but the only one you could find was so broken up you couldn’t imagine being foolish enough to give it to her. You want to slip a note into her laptop bag but you are afraid she will catch you, and then you’ll have to speak.
What if you asked her out and she said no? More importantly, what if she said yes? Would you be able to talk to her about anything, especially if you keep thinking about the mystery tattoo? This has been pretty rough on you. You feel tormented.
Relax. She may or may not be interested in trying you on for size, but she isn’t out to ruin your life. This is something everyone goes through and every does actually get through. It’s not easy the first time, but it’s definitely something you can handle.
Not all of us speak as well as we write, so maybe you can find a way to start communications that way. You don’t have to have the whole evening figured out, but you know enough of her interests to know that you will have something to talk about. Besides, if you just ask questions you can be sure to get her to do most of the talking for at least the first hour.
Asking her out isn’t the make it or break it statement of your life and if you just start to look at it as practice, you’ll be able to take some of the pressure off. She is fallible, just as you are. She isn’t something to hang on your mantle and worship. She is human with human flaws and human interests. She isn’t going to grow fangs and claws and tear you to pieces. She is just a young woman whom has captured your attention.
If you ask her out, even just once, you have jumped a tremendous hurdle. You have showed yourself that you are more capable than you believed you were just yesterday. You have proven that you can face a challenge that makes you sweat and walk away with your head held high, regardless of the outcome.
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